The Fourth Trimester

If there’s anything I’ve learned as a new mom, it’s that you have to GO WITH THE FLOW. I’ve been surrounded by social media, friends, family members who tell me “you have to do this,” and “don’t do this.” For the most part, everyone means well.. but let me tell you something.. MY BABY IS NOT YOUR BABY. And – SURPRISE – every baby is different and every parent is different. That’s great if something worked for you, but it may not work for us (and trust me-I’m a try everything kind of gal), so please continue along with your “exepertise.” 😉

Now don’t get me wrong – I appreciate little tidbits here and there because I am a first time mom and, frankly, I have no idea what I’m doing (ha!) But please take the, “you’ll regret it if you do that,” and walk yoself outta our lives. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

The first few weeks of the “4th trimester” were certainly challenging. I am so happy I made people wait 2 weeks before visiting AND to be honest, if we have another kid, I am only allowing people to come the first 3 months if they’re willing to help. Like – I am going to leave a list of dishes, food prep, laundry. If ya don’t want to help out, don’t come until later, easy as that. It might seem harsh or mean, but truthfully, trying to cook for everyone, run around for everyone, impress everyone, all while trying to regulate a baby’s schedule – making sure she takes naps and doesn’t get overtired (because babies less than 3 months really can only stay awake 45-60 minutes which includes feeding time) + breastfeeding constantly (the first 6 weeks at least).. It’s just not worth it. I’m sorry if that takes people’s joy away, but that’s how I feel. And frankly, I am the one doing all the recovering and who put in the effort for 9 months so — sorry bout ya luck. Come visit a few months later.

I recorded my birth story and my breastfeeding journey on my instagram if you’d rather listen – @jennpalmer19 (will also link here soon). Things I learned about breastfeeding: it’s a commitment, it’s hard work, it’s worth it. Those first 2 weeks are ROUGH as you’re sleep deprived, trying to recover from birth, in pain, trying to feed every 2-3 hours, etc. ROUGH. Then each 2 weeks I felt like got better. By 6 weeks I felt like I really had the hang of it and it’s only gotten easier since!

During all of my breastfeeding time, I found a lot of different websites and social media sites that I would look up. There are SO many and I felt like I had to find what resonated with me. In the end, I decided I am more of an “attachment-based” parent and I really try to mother by my intuition instead of what books or other things say. So far, so good (I hope-ha!) I actually feel that I really love a few on Instagram that seemed to really speak to me: @islagracesleep and @ontrackbaby were the two big ones. They speak more to parenting via developmental age, watching cues, keeping the baby out of “baby containers,” and letting the baby explore the way they were intended to. Again, their accounts just seemed to fit for me- but are likely not for everyone else.

I have to say one of the toughest things about my transition into motherhood is adapting to a new me. I’ve always considered myself to be mentally strong (I feel like that’s necessary to give birth naturally-haha). It’s such a weird and difficult spot to find yourself when you’re trying to merge the old you with the new you. I know it may seem silly, but for me, it’s tough. You see, old me loved working out, eating healthy, my career, my websites, staying busy and productive ALL the time (plus naps). New me loves hanging out with my daughter, watching her grow, teaching her how to reach milestones. I still love working out and eating healthy. I still love my career. I still love being productive, BUT there’s just not enough time for everything. Giving certain things up is HARD because I’d love to do it all – that’s just my personality. But I can’t, and that’s something I have to accept. This is WAY easier said than done.

Sure, some of you are probably like, “just give ____ up.” Sure, I could quit my jobs if I wanted (it would be tight with these student loans, but could be done). But truthfully, I loved being away to teach for my first day at work (one of my jobs). I felt like I had another purpose. I missed my daughter and husband but I was SO happy to come home to them. I felt like it made me appreciate being with my daughter more. And that was just one day. The problem is, when at work, I had to pump multiple times a day because I chose to breastfeed (and won’t let work stop me). I then felt like I slightly failed my students. I wasn’t there the whole time, I missed out on parts of the lab where I would normally jump in, I felt kind of useless. To top that off, I felt guilty feeling happy about being away. What a crazy mind, right?! HELLO POSTPARTUM AND MOTHERHOOD – ha!

This is the part of the 4th trimester and motherhood that has got to me the most. The physical pain and healing is temporary, but the rest of this is tough. I know eventually I’ll be able to get back to doing more – this is all only temporary. But man is it hard. And sure, I could stay up late and work on more things after she goes to sleep..but I need sleep too (I don’t function well without it haha). One thing I have learned to do, which is becoming easier as she gets older, is do at least one thing for myself each day. Make a matcha latte, do a few exercises for 5-10 minutes while she plays independently, get outside.. All of these have made a tremendous difference for me and help me so I don’t “snap” on Scott (which has happened a few times already, I won’t lie.. It’s hard to not feel resentful at times when you’re the feeding machine and the hubs gets to sleep haha – yes he would get up if needed, but he’s working and I’m not so I’m okay with this).

Anywho, now we’re at 13 weeks as I type this. Little homie is 3 months old and she is wild! She has gone from being able to nap easily on me, to having to be nursed to sleep at times, to not falling asleep and fighting everything, to needing to be worn in a baby carrier, to needing to be walked in a stroller.. the whole nine yards! It’s all trial and error, folks! At least for us it has been. And not one thing works one day that will work the next (except the ErgoBaby carrier …right now – ha!) It’s a battle for sure figuring out what you want to sacrifice. Do you want the baby to sleep in the crib but then risk her not getting enough sleep that day because she wakes up in 5 minutes? Do you want her to wake up constantly all night or do you want to sit on the couch and let her sleep in your lap? Do you want to let her nurse to sleep or do you make her go down drowsy but awake? We have tried SO MANY THINGS and let me tell you — whatever works for YOU and your family is what is best. The AAP can say one thing, billy bob Joe can say another, the lactation consultant can say another… but it is up to YOU with what works best. Listen to your instincts, that’s what I’ve come to realize 🙂

I don’t think I have more to rant about.. so if you made it this far, cool! I hope this opens your eyes up to what the journey into motherhood is really like 🙂 If you need some recommendations on postpartum things and pregnancy essentials – check out those blogs 🙂

Feel free to comment or message me if you have any questions! I’m not very experienced but I like to think I’m an open minded person 😉 And mothering really takes a village – you can’t do it alone.

Until next time,

Jen

Postpartum Essentials

Okay, so obviously since I wrote about all of my pregnancy essentials, I also wanted to write about the things I’ve found truly valuable in my postpartum journey so far. Of course you’re going to get a few things from the hospital, but I’ve discovered that being armed with these goods has made this transition slightly easier.

Dermoplast Spray and Peri Bottle – Provided by the hospital (but here are links in case you need more). The spray is to help control the pain and itching as you heal and the peri bottle is very essential to keep everything clean down there because you’re not going to want to wipe anything – ha!

Tushy bidet – This is just something extra I got for myself because I enjoyed having a bidet when we lived in Japan. It has been so nice for postpartum, but it’s not necessary. Just something extra I invested in for myself! This is the link to the Amazon one – but sometimes they are running deals on their website too, so make sure to check that out here!

Squatty Potty – I don’t have one of these, but I try to mimic the correct position. Those first few poops postpartum are not fun. Getting yourself in the correct position to poop can make all the difference – it’s not a bad idea to invest in one (I still might just for life).

Granny panties – Towards the end of pregnancy, I bought a pack of Hanes granny panties because I knew I’d need them after.. plus in case there was any leakage or water breaking during pregnancy – I wouldn’t worry about ruining a good pair. I also stocked up on the mesh panties as much as I could at the hospital though!

Pads – Whatever brand you want – just get maxi pads! I used a few different brands because I wanted to try a few others as well as reusable ones. Surprisingly, as weird as it sounds using reusable/washable pads, I really like them. It feels so much more comfortable wearing them compared to a normal pad. That being said, I only started using them once the leakage slowed down because I don’t know that they can absorb that much (they do have overnight ones available – I just have the period starter kit ones though).
1) Always maxi pads – typical brand
2) HighOh Reusable Pads – reusable pads
3) Dollar Maxi Pad Club – No toxins here aka known to help reduce cramping! I’m going to start buying these. They also have a whole postpartum kit 🙂

Lactation tea – Not sure if this was needed, but I figured I wanted to have whatever I could to keep my milk supply up! Tastes like licorice, so definitely not my favorite, but it is what it is. It’s a nice warm evening drink. I only have it every few days or so.

Bodyarmor Drinks – I was told these help boost your milk supply so I’ve been drinking about one a day, maybe a little less. I sip it slowly throughout the day in addition to a lot of water – hydration is key!

Bamboobies and disposable nursing pads – So far I’ve only used the reusable ones, but I think it’s smart to have some disposable ones on hand too (I’m thinking for when I start working out and don’t want gross sweat just sitting there for awhile). Trust me, you’ll be leaking and you’ll need them.

Prenatals – I keep taking my prenatal so I get my vitamins and they continue to go to my baby. Nobody told me this specifically but I’ve heard it from other people and I figured it can’t be a bad idea.

Hands free pumping bra –  This has been super helpful so I can still do something while pumping! Like typing this blog 😉 There are a bunch of different kinds but I just got the medela one.

Lanolin – I use this directly on my nipples but also my midwife suggested I use it on the breast pump when I begin since it’s a different feeling and the friction can be uncomfortable! This is the other brand that I got directly from the hospital.

Nursing bras/clothes – I got some from PatPat but it’s not the best quality. I really like the clothes I got from H&M’s maternity/nursing line as well as just a basic nursing sleep bra here. I also got a dwell & slumber gown which is super comfy – I wore it during pregnancy and now I am wearing it as well 🙂 I also got a sports bra from Senita athletics which I like as well! It’s just way more convenient to be able to unclip things instead of take your whole shirt off.

Eye cream/masks – Because you’re going to be tired. I use this eye cream and these eye masks from 100 percent pure — all natural and non-pore clogging.

Premade meals – This was super helpful for my husband and I. We pre-made 8 crockpot meals which we froze about a month before my due date. They were very easy to throw in the crockpot plus they’re healthy! The ones we made were tailored to Trader Joe’s since that’s where we shop, but there are ones for Costco and other stores as well from the Family Freezer!

Paper plates and utensils – We didn’t use these too much, but it’s definitely helpful to not have a bunch of dishes if you can help it. You’re going to be tired and not want to wash anything, so- it’s not a bad investment (I know, not great for the environment – maybe there are some biodegradable ones somewhere?)

Boppy – This is needed. Not only do I use it to support my daughter and help improve my posture (because my neck and back do start hurting after breastfeeding all day), I also sat on it for the first week to help decrease my pain down there-if ya know what I mean. Plus once your baby grows, you can use it for supported sitting, tummy time, etc.

Dry shampoo – For the days you don’t get to shower. I don’t have a specific brand I like of this, so feel free to share what your favorite is!

Hand sanitizer – We have a ton of hand sanitizer around the house as well as in our cars, purses, etc. I like babyganics just because I can rub it on my daughter’s hands too (for when she puts her hands in her mouth), but we also have travel ones of your basic purel and germex. Babies don’t have developed immune systems until they’re 2 months old so they’re very vulnerable to sickness. Maybe it’s because I’m a new mom, or because I’ve seen so much working in hospitals, but I’d advise to get a bunch – makes it easy for people to keep themselves clean before touching your baby.

Native soap– Free of parabens, aluminum, and sulfates. I decided since my baby would be snuggling with me a lot, I should switch to something a little more less toxic. I already use their deodorant, but I really like this body wash too!

Healthy snacks – You’re going to want to have snacks all over for when you’re breastfeeding. You’re going to be up in the middle of the night, sleep deprived, and well- you’re feeding another human so you need to make sure you have food in you. Obviously, try to opt for the healthier snacks instead of the crappy things – whatever you eat, your baby eats!

Non-toxic cleaners – I went with Branch Basics (they have a trial pack!) – there’s no fragrance and it’s all non-toxic! So far we really love it. Plus, you can use the same concentrate for laundry, hand soap, multi-purpose, etc.

Sleep- HA 😉 this one will come soon enough! I’ve never been so thankful for a 2 hour nap.

I hope this helps some of you figure out what may be beneficial for you after birth!! Feel free to message me, comment, or ask if you have any other questions/concerns!

– Jen

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Pregnancy Essentials

Hey Everyone!

I decided to put a running list together of all the things that have helped me get through pregnancy so far. I’m currently 18 weeks and finally have started to feel a little more energized and less nausea — woo! I’m sure the list below will update as I continue on, but for now – here are a few things that I feel like are “essentials” – all on Amazon (for now..until I add more). Hope this helps you during your pregnancy or helps you figure out what to send in a care package to a pregnant friend/family member of yours 😉 I’m sure they would appreciate it!!

Prenatal Gummies – I initially had been taking Vitafusion, but I noticed they had more Vitamin A than I was comfortable with (too much pre-formed Vitamin A can cause toxicity in pregnancy!) I switched to these – they taste great! No Biotin or Iodide, which I didn’t want (as they can cause acne). I have never been able to hold down multi-vitamins, so I have always had to find gummies! These work for me 🙂
Foot Massager – Worth the investment. I enjoy it, Scott enjoys it. I basically couldn’t stop thinking about having my feet rubbed after I got a massage a few weeks ago. I even bought the remote here for when my belly starts getting too big. Totally worth it to put my feet in this after a long day! The high settings can even hurt a little bit at first (which I wanted to make them feel better). Then the next time around, my feet tend to feel better already!
Preggie Pop Drops (PLUS with B6) – Get the ones with the PLUS! They have B6 in them and this seemed to help me more than just the regular ones. Taste amazing too (like jolly ranchers)

Sea Bands for Morning Sickness – Truthfully, I didn’t wear these often because I was still trying to hide that I was pregnant. I’ve heard good things about them from other people! The days I did wear them they may have helped..but again, can’t say for sure as my nausea was up and down!
Tide Free and Gentle Laundry Detergent – Not a necessity, but I chose to switch to a “free” detergent to eliminate the chemicals and the residue it leaves. The residue from normal detergents and dryer sheets actually causes acne! Plus, you should be able to use this when the baby comes 🙂
Free and Clear Shampoo and Conditioner – Same thing as above – not a necessity, but I wanted to eliminate chemicals from my life due to previous liver issues and just the overall idea of wanting a toxin-free life. I like it! No fragrance, but that’s the point.
The Naked Bee Shampoo – This one is all natural AND non-comedogenic (doesn’t cause acne). I know, who would think about a shampoo causing acne, but I bet it does! I rotate this one and the Free and Clear along with my other OGX shampoos on occasion (just depends on the day). I try to use this one as much as possible though!
Maternity Pillow – Everyone should have this, pregnant or not. Best thing ever. That’s all.
HeartRate Monitor – I got this to monitor my heart rate during work and other exercise as I know I have a tendency to push myself. Generally, this isn’t worried about anymore, but again, knowing I may go a little too hard occasionally and I am very active– this was worth it for me.

Compression Socks – I got these before I was pregnant just because I was on my feet all day at work. So far so good!? These are my first compression socks so I can’t say much else about them.

Palmer’s Stretch Mark Massage Lotion – I’ve been using this in addition to regular Jojoba Oil that I got from Trader Joe’s throughout my pregnancy to help reduce potential stretch marks! I’ve always loved Palmer’s cocoa butter so I wanted to try out this for my stomach 🙂 So far, so good!

Oh and another essential is a prenatal massage … got one already thanks to the hubs and my SI joint pain (had it before pregnancy on/off so now it was just back even worse..) and it was gone! Of course, if needed, I will go see a pelvic health PT, but I’m hoping to avoid that if necessary (given that I have basic PT knowledge…but def not a pelvic health specialist). Will probably get another down the road as I start to get more sore again (LOL who am I kidding, always sore right now). Highly recommend… husbands and family members take note 😉

**Third Trimester Update!**

I’m now almost 32 weeks pregnant – eek! There are so many things I have now bought since I last posted at the end of the first trimester, see below 🙂

SI joint belt – I had SI joint issues before pregnancy, but I was always able to correct it myself. Now a combination of going to see another PT for myself (I’m not a women’s health specialist and don’t claim to be) plus using this SI belt at work – I’ve been able to manage my pain!

Maternity Scrubs – Definitely not as soft as my other scrubs, but they were cheap and they get the job done (aka don’t cut off my circulation with each breath).

Maternity Leggings and Nursing Sports Bra.  – It was hard for me to even buy maternity clothes at all, but I’m so happy I splurged and got a pair of these leggings and a larger, nursing sports bra! 1) I can breathe in the sports bra now – ha! and 2) I can wear these leggings now and postpartum as my tummy recovers!! Plus the leggings have pockets.. and they’re affordable 🙂

Nursing Pullover Bras.  These have been super comfortable – again – allowing me to breathe when all of my other bras were cutting off my circulation!

Belly Band Shirt Extender – BEST few bucks I’ve spent! Instead of buying a bunch of maternity shirts, I’ve just been putting this underneath of my old ones so I can keep wearing them!!

Ice Pack – Just needed after a long day on my feet.. Totally worth it. Also a good size if you have knee or back pain!

Non-toxic nail polish – Because I wanted to stay toxin-free as much as possible throughout pregnancy, I wanted to invest in some nail polish. I got a few that were on sale here, but there are a few other brands as well (BKind and Sundays). I really like the ones I have from 100 percent pure and Sundays! I feel like they actually last longer than the regular stuff too.

Natural Pumice Stone for Feet 2 PCS, Phogary Lava Pedicure Tools Hard Skin Callus Remover for Feet and Hands – Natural Foot File Exfoliation to Remove Dead Skin – I developed a few calluses on my feet, even saw a podiatrist and got some orthotics! In the meantime, this is a good option to keep your feet as smooth as possible for as long as you can reach.

In addition to all of these things, I was also gifted a sweater from Pink Blush Maternity which I LOVE (see below). I’m all about oversized sweaters for the comfort plus the practicality that I can wear it now and postpartum 🙂 Check it out here in addition to all of their other cute things!!

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I’m sure there are more things I am missing.. but for now, here ya go! Happy pregnancy!!

– Jen

My SkinCare Fails (and Lessons Learned)

Okay, so let me say a few things first here.

First off, I am not a skincare expert. I am just a girl who has suffered with acne FOREVER and I am tired of it. I have trialed so many things and I think I am finally finding some relief!

Second, I have chosen to use more natural products specifically because I experienced a few liver issues in the past year (for unknown reasons) and I would like to minimize any and all toxic products that I use, eat, etc. (Birth control is SO TOXIC–important sidenote!!)

Third, this is currently all about the topical things I am using, BUT skincare is way more than topical. In fact, for me, most of my breakouts have to do with how my body is feeling internally. Hormonal breakouts are inevitable for me, BUT can I limit it to just one pimple?? Hopefully! Getting your gut (and stress!!) under control is SUCH a huge component in all this. I will likely happily write about that soon too 😉 Eliminating sugars specifically has helped me tremendously… I’ll stop there, haha

Fourth, even if you don’t use any of the products that I use (because we ALL need something different), I would HIGHLY recommend checking your products for comedogenic (pore-clogging) ingredients. I like to use this list on the AOS website (they also sent me a bookmark with them all with my first purchase!! I carry it around whenever I’m shopping). The other list I go to is on ClearSTEM’s website here – just in case one doesn’t load 😉

Fifth, because I LOVE Art of Skincare (I literally just stumbled upon them one day after so many searches), I am going to provide links to them. They have been so great to me. If you buy things through my link, they might like me more, so show some support 😉 Okay, but really, their website is super informative AND everything is marked “Acne Safe” if it is! They do the work without you having to look through the list. It’s awesome. Between them and ClearSTEM – who has created only acne-safe, non-toxic, and non-hormonal items, I honestly don’t plan on buying skincare items from anywhere else anymore.

Okay, let’s get to it!

Things that didn’t work for me:

  1. Jojoba oil. I bought this straight from Trader Joe’s with the intent of using it as a moisturizer. I had read it somewhere and was excited to try something natural. It basically just made my skin oily. I didn’t see any extreme differences either way, but that’s both good and bad. Maybe it works on people that need some oil/moisture in their lives, but I DEFINITELY don’t need that! I do now use this for my hair, though! I put it on my split ends – just not too much because it can make it oily/stringy looking.
  2. Rodan & Fields Unblemish. I used this routine for YEARS. At first, it looked like it helped a little bit, but it wasn’t drastic and there’s a good chance I was hoping it would work just because it can be an expensive thing to invest in. Plus I needed to justify getting that PC Perks membership. I didn’t want to let it go for so long just in case, but I finally cut it loose a few months ago! It just didn’t work for me. You have to make sure you look at ALL of the ingredients!!
  3. Tea Tree Oil face wash (this one). I don’t know why I trusted a random stranger who said this helped her hormonal acne, but I did. I used it for about 6 months and all I saw was more blackheads.
  4. Charcoal scrub sponges. Okay, I don’t know about these. I like how they feel on my face, but I don’t know that it really does anything. My face might feel slightly smoother, but I also might be pushing dirt and dead skin back into my face. IDK. But if you want to try one, I’ve tried both 100 percent pure and Bkind and I hands down prefer the one from Bkind. It stays together WAY longer.
  5. Turmeric masks. Okay, I tried this with coconut oil and I thought it might have done something, but honestly I just think the slight tint of the turmeric made the redness of my acne go away for a few minutes while it tricked my mind and gave me a slight yellow/orange/tan tint. I don’t know, maybe it works for other people, but I can’t say I’ll be doing it again. Plus it’s messy and can stain your things very easily!
  6. Benzoyl Peroxide, Salicylic Acid, all those things. I used to even get prescription topical ointments from my physician. Those didn’t work. That’s really all I can say. This was years ago, but again, with hormonal acne – that is coming from inside. Maybe these would work occasionally, but Benzoyl Peroxide honestly just dried my face out partially and bleached a lot of my towels. Kind of sucked.
  7. Neutrogena Face Wash. Just didn’t work. I think it tried, but it basically did nothing. It was very basic and years ago, but not something I’ll try again.
  8. St. Ive’s Apricot Scrub. Nope, nothing there. Might have made my face feel okay for a hot sec, but nope. This was awhile ago, but it didn’t last long.

 

Things that might be working for me (I’m pretty sure): It really takes a few weeks before you can truly start noticing differences, so anyone that says “this changed my skin the moment I started using it” is probably either lying, going through a purging phase, or what I like to call a “switching products phase” where for 2-4 days your skin looks great. I don’t know why, it just does (maybe this is deep down the trick!? HA).

  1. Apple Cider Vinegar (Trader Joe’s brand). Okay, Scott HATES this and I don’t blame him. It obviously does not smell great when you rub it on your face, haha. BUT, I have noticed that it not only tingles when you put it on (I assume that is okay), but a few hours after/in the morning, it actually does draw things out. I’ll usually put this on at night, because I used to do it during work and then I had whiteheads pop up around 11am in addition to the other whiteheads that would pop up just due to excess oil. Now I put it on at night so that if anything crazy pops up, I’ll notice right when I wake up in the morning!
  2. Pink Clay Floral Face Mask (Bkind). I might use this 1 time every week or every other week. I checked it for pore-clogging ingredients and it’s GOOD! I notice my skin looking a little clearer but nothing super dramatic here either. It might work, it might not. I don’t notice much to be honest. I also like their rose facial scrub, but it has pore-clogging ingredients so I haven’t used it in awhile (it leaves my skin feeling so smooth…but probably clogs my pores too HA).
  3. Blueberry Acai Scrub (Trader Joe’s). I only use this once every 1-2 weeks also. I think it does something, but I’m not sure. It also could just be pushing things into my skin. It’s all natural and not pore-clogging and it makes my skin feel a little soft afterwards. It feels good when I rub it on too, but again, not sure if it’s truly helping or not!?
  4.  Face Reality Mandelic Acid Face and Body Wash. This is MY JAM. I use this in the morning and at night (for about 4 weeks now) and I have seen a difference in my skin. My pores are smaller and my forehead is shiny in a good way, not an oily way. Needless to say, I’m super excited to get more mandelic acid things soon (see below)!

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5. ClearStem SkinCare Anti-Acne and Anti-Aging Serum. I really like this serum, but I do switch back and forth between this one and Face Reality. That being said, I really like this serum and I will definitely buy it again. It can be expensive, though so you have to watch for deals! Mine has lasted me quite a few months though since I switch between 2 different serums. I feel like it has helped me get rid of my scarring and just make my skin smoother and shinier (in a good way). I really like that it’s natural, too!

6. Face Reality Hydrating HydraBalance. I use this probably about 3-5x/week, usually right after I apply my apple cider vinegar. I haven’t seen anything dramatic, but I don’t use any other moisturizer or anything right now, so I think it’s important. The lady that gave me a facial told me that my skin may be overproducing oil because it’s dehydrated? I’m not sure because she also put an algae mask on my face when I asked her to use non-comedogenic products (then tried to sell me a moisturizer that had comedogenic products in it too).. so who knows if it was a business tactic or what, but so far, no harm, no foul.

 

Things I’m going to be TRYING based off of my consult with Art Of Skincare! (fingers crossed they help!)

  1. Face Reality Mandelic Acid 8% Serum. You have to do a consult with a specialist to get this 🙂 – I really love this though!
  2. Face Reality Cran-Peptide Cream. Just got a sample of this that I’m going to try! I know it’s pretty new so we’ll see!
  3. Face Reality Moisture Balance Toner. I think Scott will like the smell of this better than Apple Cider Vinegar hahahaha. I also bought these gauze pads to try with it – not sure how they’ll work, but I will let ya know 😉
  4. Face Reality Clearderma Moisturizer. Heard from a friend this is awesome! Excited to try it out 🙂 — As of 11/19: I’ve had great success with this and love it!
  5. Face Reality SPF 28. I haven’t had a good sunscreen in awhile. Heard this was a little greasy for one of my friends, but even if it doesn’t work for my face, I figured I can always use this on my body 🙂 Won’t clog my other pores 😉 — As of 11/19: I’ve had great success with this too!

DEFINITELY follow me on Instagram if you don’t already if you want updates on these (@jennpalmer19). I’ll do my best to update this blog, but any immediate updates will be there 😉

Makeups to try! This is HUGE. I won’t go through all of the things I threw out (it was a lot), but I actually sat down on a Friday night and went through all of my face products to see what had pore clogging ingredients. NOTE: It’s a lot. Even the ones that say they “help with blemishes” might have pore-clogging ingredients, so CHECK YOUR STUFF PEEPS!!

  1. Not ALL things from 100% pure are non-comedogenic. They are natural, but natural things CAN STILL CLOG YOUR PORES (read that again). I didn’t know this until recently, so don’t feel bad. I don’t know why I didn’t think about it, but duhhhh. So I have this foundation from 100% pure that is non-comedogenic. Because I have oily skin, though, sometimes my face does push it out and it can get a little cakey towards the end of the day. Not sure if I’ll get it again, but maybe if I was better at applying it, it would be better? I’m just not great with makeup lolz
  2. Sharing the all-natural mascara that I LOVE from 100% pure. It’s tinted with berries and therefore smells like them. I don’t know if this is non-comedogenic, but I figured it’s okay to use anyways since it’s on my eyelashes!? Hopefully! I’m obsessed with it. And like I said, I’m not a makeup person.
  3. Mineral Essence. Found this on ArtOfSkinCare again – I really love it right now. I will buy it again for sure. It has good coverage and makes my skin look less oily when I first apply it in the morning. Of course, with oily skin, it kind of melts away as the day goes on, but that’s normal with everything for me. (on the hunt for a non-pore-clogging-makeup-spray). If you don’t like this makeup – you can always look at all the other ones on their website. Like I said, they do the work and write “acne safe” next to it. I just like to look for more natural things 🙂 Might get Au Naturale next in addition to this!!
  4. I got this Naked Palette (I think it was this one…) from 100% pure as a free gift from buying so many items one time. It’s non-comedogenic from what I looked up, natural, and I like it. I’m pretty basic.

That’s kind of it because I don’t really wear makeup sooooo

Don’t forget about your shampoos and hair products! I’m working on switching these still. I found a shampoo that is all non-comedogenic and natural. It’s Naked Bee. I haven’t been able to find a natural conditioner yet that is not pore-clogging. I’ve truthfully been switching back and forth between Naked Bee and OGX shampoo just because, honestly, my hair doesn’t feel amazing after the Naked Bee one. It doesn’t feel awful either, it just doesn’t feel silky smooth unless I put a bunch of leave in conditioner in (or jojoba oil). This is probably because it’s all natural and not coating my hair, but it is hard to get used to – just to make you aware. I have noticed less clogged pores along my hairline since I started using this! Especially because I’m active and sweat a lot, this has helped me!!

OKAY everyone. Sorry that I didn’t include many pictures.. maybe I’ll update this and include some more at some point 😉 I TRULY hope this helps you narrow down your skincare items and routine. It will always be a work in progress and I am so happy to be transparent and share everything with you. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions/comments, ANYTHING!! Just remember, you’re not alone in this acne struggle. ❤

 

Until next time,

Jen

PS if you’re wondering how to save money to pay for all these crazy skincare products, check out my other blogs regarding Simple Ways to Save Money and All About My Student Loans. 🙂

Leave Your Shoes, Take Everything Else: Cartagena, Colombia

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Well it had been awhile since I traveled outside of the country (almost a year!) and I was certainly getting antsy for an adventure.. so off to Colombia we went!

People keep asking me – why Colombia? Honestly, Scott and I never really had a “honeymoon” so I wanted to go somewhere warm, but I was afraid we’d get too bored if we stayed at an all-inclusive place for more than 4 days. I looked at splitting up places and traveling between countries (like my usual speed travel), but ultimately we decided on spending 6 days in Cartagena, Colombia with a focus on RELAXING *gasp*!

My expectations of Cartagena truthfully came from different Instagram accounts, pictures of AirBnb places we had looked at, and a few random strangers who said, “So-and-so just loved Cartagena!” After all of this, I was like, welp, YOLO – let’s go!

I’m not gonna lie to you – it was hard at times for me to actually relax during the vacation. Whenever I’ve done my budget travels, I’m always so focused on seeing as much as I can and spending as little money as possible (Check out Singapore, Malaysia, Bali, and Thailand). This was clearly different.

Over our 6 days, Cartagena made it SO easy to enjoy AMAZING food at great prices. Seriously, I was not expecting the food to be great, but it was honestly the highlight of the trip for me.

The first day we arrived, we ate dinner on a beautiful rooftop, tried some fish soup and steak with a Colombian coffee sauce. We walked around outside to hear music playing at the square nearby to us while horse carriages passed by. Talk about a dream! It really felt like a fancy European country, all right in Colombia. We headed to bed early, knowing we had to get up and be ready for our adventure day of island hopping and snorkeling.

We were picked up at 6 AM, right on time, for our island hopping trip. To be honest, it was advertised as a snorkeling trip too, but we really were only able to do about 30 minutes of snorkeling in a guided tour, kind of a bummer. One thing I did notice here, as compared to the southeast Asian countries I’ve been to, was that the tourism industry wasn’t quite as developed yet. Likely because Colombia is still on the rise as places to visit.

We went to multiple islands in the Islas Del Rosario on our trip including Playa Blanca, Isla Baru, Cholon, and Playa Azul. As our guide told us, each one had a very different vibe.

Playa Blanca was the most accessible from Cartagena, which makes sense as to why it was so packed.

Cholon is known to be the “party island.” Since we went on a Thursday, it wasn’t quite as packed, but they did sell some awesome (and overpriced) Pina Coladas in a pineapple. Honestly, the rum was strong, local, and awesome.. but I’d recommend getting a Pina Colada back at Playa Blanca – cheaper and just as good!

Playa Azul was a very chill, relaxing beach that we hung out for about an hour. There were people selling things everywhere, but I think this beach probably had the least amount.

As a sidenote (but also main note): Nothing is free and you ALWAYS need to ask how much before you buy anything from any vendor on the street, beach, or even taxi. “Cuanto Cuesta” is the phrase to know. We actually did get a little ripped off by a person who “thought we bought another girl’s drink,” yet charged her as well AND charged us more than what it cost. Luckily, we were on a trip with a big group and the tour guide confronted him about it. It was definitely a positive to have an insider with us during the trip to give us these tips and talk directly with the locals. They WILL take advantage of you and they are VERY good liars! Just be aware and ask how much everything is before you purchase it so they verify it beforehand!!

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The next few days consisted of a lot of the same: walking, exploring, eating, and drinking. Here are a few highlights of the neighborhoods we adventured to and the places we ate at:

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We stayed inside the walled city, so just walking around the wall itself was fun! There are so many little streets you can just jump off on and walk down. Each has a bunch of little stores, restaurants, bars, whatever! And it’s all fairly self explanatory since it sits inside the wall.

Getsemani – The “hipster district.” We walked here a few times, tried a few coffee shops, found some craft beer (although we weren’t that impressed with the beer, which is understandable). There are so many murals here, even people painting them as we walked by! It was a cool little area to check out. If you are vegan, you will definitely find eats here!

 

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Las Bovedas – Just along the wall near we stayed, Las Bovedas is a series of little shops. This is a perfect area to pick up all your touristy items! Not to mention, there are tons of vendors trying to sell you coffee, snacks, and other drinks nearby if you want to grab a snack!

ALL of the plazas! – We stayed very close to San Diego plaza (did not plan that, haha). Many nights there was live music playing (for donations)… Of course there are plenty of restaurants.. and so many cool/strange statues! Each plaza had its own vibe, which was cool to check out for sure!

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This is a pretty horrible picture, but YES you can find a few wild animals in Cartagena! They are all in the Parque del Centenario – very close to Getsemani. We wandered through this area a few times but only saw the sloth once. Big tip is to look for the group of people staring up into the trees…

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And then here is just another one of us standing on a random street corner…

Our 4th night there, we decided to book an evening harbor cruise with a 3-course meal. We booked this through Viator (I book most tours through this when I travel abroad). Everything went smoothly using Viator, but I will say it is less developed in Colombia than when I used it in other countries.

The harbor cruise was awesome! The food was great (not the best we had, but definitely still good). The view of the harbor was probably not very different from your typical harbor view at night, but it was a great experience nonetheless for a very reasonable price. I’m sure if we had done something like this back home, it would have been at least double the cost. Check it out here!

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That night, we checked out a bar (Bazurto Social Club) nearby that had been featured in a few travel guides I had read. It was awesome to get a feel for the Colombian nightlife and their style of dancing! We definitely tried to fit in, but I think we’ll need some practice 😉

The next day we spent relaxing and recovering in Bocagrande.

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Bocagrande – We spent about $100 USD for the day for use of the pool and hotel room at the Hyatt in Bocagrande. This is the more Miami-esque, downtown-kind of vibe. It was nice to just lay by the pool and feel like we were living the “rich life” .. or something like that. The food wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t amazing either. I would definitely try to eat at the more authentic restaurants in the old town area!

The next day was spent wandering around some more coffee shops and restaurants, getting our last few meals in and soaking up the warmth of the country before we headed back! Check out my post (coming soon) to read more about ALL the food and drinks we tried while we were here! – it was seriously the highlight of the trip!!

Overall, if you are looking for a place that offers so many different things (beach, city, culture, art, food, you name it).. Cartagena is an amazing place to go! You could spend a lot of money or you could spend very little. It’s a great place to go no matter what you can afford. Plus, the weather is great (especially in January) and it is still an up and coming touristy area! So most likely you’ll be the first of your friends to go 😉 You trendsetter you!

Oh, and we did get our photographs done while we were here, and I love the few that I have posted, but I can’t necessarily recommend our photographer for the price we paid just yet. I think she needs some time to grow and a little more experience 😉 BUT feel free to message me if you want to know who our photographer was 🙂

Be sure to check out my other posts from places I have traveled to in Asia (Japan, Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, Bali) if you’re looking for a different type of experience 🙂

Until next time,

Jen

 

 

I’m No Dave Ramsey But… Student Loans 101

I’ve gotten many questions recently in regards to paying off student loans. There are a few different options that you can take when addressing this issue, but I will talk you through what I have been doing.

To give you some background, I had undergrad and grad school loans totaling about $160,000 after graduation. People always tell me, “Oh you should’ve gotten scholarships” or “You could’ve went to community college” – Yes, I get it. But the reason I chose my school was:

1) To get my Doctorate in 6 years at a 3+3 program – hellooo one less year of school

2) As long as I maintained my GPA, I wouldn’t have to take the GRE to get into grad school

3) I did get scholarships. Half-off tuition for my first 4 years, 1/3 off for my last 2 years. In addition to some amazing other scholarships (Huge thank you to Central Scholarship) for a few hundred to thousand each year. So yes, this debt is on TOP of those.

And if anyone says the whole “you should’ve worked while you were in school.” Yeah, not buying that either. I worked multiple jobs while in school, of course at a minimum wage rate. I did anything from help at athletic events to answering phones, and on holiday breaks and some weekends I was a cashier back in my hometown. Yes, this is in addition to playing a collegiate sport and being involved with just about every club on campus. As you can see, I was very busy.

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So back to the loans. In May 2015, I had about $100 to my name, $160,000 in student loan debt, and a brand new car loan (another $17,000). My car had been a run down car for years, literally car parts fell off on the road, and I had decided the safest/best thing for me was to invest in a car for the long haul. I knew I wasn’t going to end up living near my family, so knowing I had that for safety was comforting, even if it did add to my debt.

I moved to my first apartment in Virginia Beach in June 2015, all by my lonesome. I figured, I’m going to be a PT, I can afford this! Sure, I could, but not with much leftover. I immediately upped my credit card limit (I hadn’t done that since I was 18), and invested in a nice mattress and a $15 folding table from Craigslist. All I needed was a good night’s rest and a table to sit and study at (because yes, I started working before I took my licensing exam). I spent that first month working and studying just about every night until my boards came, luckily I passed.

I was able to start saving about $50/month to rebuild up my personal accounts. I saved a little more these first few months before my official loan payments started since I had my new “big girl” paychecks, but I also wanted to start adding a little furniture to my life. Maybe eat some food, ya know.

I have always been a frugal person, never really buying anything unless I needed it, so the need to save money came pretty easy to me. I learned to focus on things that meant a lot to me, spend a little on that to treat myself, but put a majority of my paycheck to getting out of debt.

First thing was first, my credit card.  This by far had the largest interest rate and the lowest amount of debt, so I wanted to tackle this first. All of my extra money (besides necessities and $50-$100 to savings) went to this initially. I wanted to get rid of it stat. To this day, I still use my credit card, but pay it off immediately. This way, I get the perks of having credit and getting points, but I don’t have to pay that crazy interest! This is important. I would recommend targeting whatever debt has the highest interest rate first!!

Once this was paid down a few months later, I began paying my student loans – only part of what my eventual monthly payment would be, but I wanted to start as early as possible because I knew it would benefit me in the long run. Every day that passes is just another day of interest accruing! So yes, I am also that weirdo who wants to pay the random $20 payments whenever I get it – even if that means I make 10 payments a month – JUST because that $20 could equal $30 next year.. and that’s $10 that I could’ve spent on cute lattes, just sayin.

When my loan payments were about to begin, I made sure I had the right plan. For me, the standard plan was not going to work the best. It was around $1600/month for 25 years (AHH). I could pay that, but I wanted to make sure that while I was starting my career and life, I had a little give just in case I needed it. Plus, my savings account still wasn’t looking great. I opted for the extended graduated plan, meaning I’d start around $600/month. This would then increase by 100-200 every 2 years. I figured I would still continue to pay as much as possible (sometimes the same as the standard amount), but like I said, I wanted to be able to have money just in case something happened!

About 2 months after I began my loan payments, I decided to get a PRN job. This was always on my mind, just because I had almost always worked a few jobs at a time. I just wanted to allow myself a few months to get adjusted to the real world. I already worked full time in an acute hospital, but I lucked out and found a PRN job that was perfect! A few hours here and there when I could, and my boss was super chill (yes, that can be hard to find). I decided that all of my PRN money would go straight to my loans. This could be anything from $50-$300 a paycheck

This trend continued for a few months and I was eventually able to get my credit card payment down to 0, my car payment down a little bit, and still pay all of my other bills on time (loans, rent, etc). It was going well, BUT I will say one thing I don’t necessarily regret at all, but would advise, is that you do not live alone for a few years. I’m not saying you have to live with your parents, but at least have a roommate if you can tolerate it.

After a year on my own, I moved in with a roommate while my boyfriend (now husband) was over in Japan. By cutting my rent payment in half, I was able to put a solid extra $400 towards my car and student loans each month. I ended up prioritizing my private loan first (highest interest), the first federal loan I had (small but through a different company because my college switched after my first semester), then my car loan (2ndlargest chunk), and then my GIANT federal loan.

Certainly, the smartest thing is probably to pay off whatever has the most interest. Which is basically what I did. BUT my car definitely had a lower interest rate than my giant federal loans. That being said, I just wanted to get rid of it.

At one point, I ended up doing a travel job for 3 months while keeping my PRN jobs a few hours back. Yes, I traveled at least once a month to work at those jobs, meaning at times I’d work 12 days in a row. It sucked, but it was fine. I was alone in the mountains and had plenty of time to explore and hike. It was cool, but I could talk about travel therapy a different time.. Long story short of that snippet of life is that: I made a lot of money to put toward my loans. Definitely a perk of travel therapy.


The months to follow consisted of juggling multiple PRN jobs trying to get as many hours as I could before I decided to leave and live in Japan for a few months. While I knew my husband and I would have the funds to make ends meet, I wanted to know that I’d have enough money to put more towards my car and loans, if possible. EVEN if it was only $5 extra. I had saved up about $12,000 alone just to live off of. That sounds like a lot, but when you have to live off of it for 8 months and you have about $1,000 in bills alone (car+loans), it doesn’t get you very far.

In Japan, I super budgeted because I wanted to be able to travel as well. Yes, I EVEN traveled these last few years. I stayed in hostels and went to Malaysia, Thailand, Bali, and Singapore on my own. While I didn’t have to work when I returned to Japan, my husband and I both knew how much it meant to me to be able to pay for things myself. STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN YA HEARD. (of course, marriage is about give and take and this was definitely a moment where I had to learn that it was time to let my husband take care of me…again, another story).

I worked as an English tutor in a variety of ways. I taught conversational English, I edited translated papers prior to MDs presenting them in International conferences, I taught anatomy to Chinese Medicine lover, and I even taught English at adventure camps. I wanted to make money and make the most of this experience – my loans ALWAYS hovering over me in the back of my mind.

Flash forward to now, I’ve been in San Diego about a year and have had multiple different jobs. I have been out of school for almost 4 years, paying on my loans this whole time. I have gone from $160,000 in student loans to $99,000 (although my interest is still 5.3% which means I pay about $530 in interest only every month! So yes, think about all that interest I paid off already…). I have no credit card debt. My car is paid off.

Since I have been in San Diego, it has been incredibly helpful to live off of one income instead of two between my husband and me. All of my income goes to my student loans. I fully understand this is not a luxury that everyone has, but here are some things I can recommend knowing what I have been through and what I am still currently going through:

  • Live with a roommate. Your friend, a stranger, your boyfriend (if it’s the right time lol) – whatever. It will save you money.
  • If you qualify for loan forgiveness by working for a non-profit, apply for it, but don’t bank on it. That’s 10 years and I BET you could pay it off sooner if you really dedicate yourself.
  • Treat yourself, but don’t get crazy. Put that $5 towards your loans instead of that latte every once in awhile, that’s a treat in itself.
  • If it makes sense for you to consolidate, do it. But make sure it’s the right company and that you aren’t trying to get PSLF – because it may not qualify after you consolidate.
  • Pay off whatever interest is higher. I have my giant loan now and instead of paying towards all of it each time, I am paying directly towards my large, high interest (6.95%) loan. This means my interest that accrues each month drops since it is such an outlier. SUPER helpful!
  • If you can find a trustworthy company that can refinance your loans for a lower percentage, GO for it. I personally think I should but haven’t looked into it enough yet to do it. We will see!
  • COUPON!!! I use so many silly apps, answer surveys, watch random things for pennies -no joke, I wrote a blog on them here. And then I just put this $20 at a time to my loans. It’s simple and makes me happy 🙂
  • Breathe, try not to cry. But then if you do cry, remember you’re not alone. This sucks and I think everyday about what I could be doing with all my loan money. (Last year I paid $11,000 in interest ALONE on top of the $14,000 I paid to my principal balance. And yeah, we only get $2,500 deducted from taxes..)
  • Something else might work for you—I have heard of people investing instead and paying things off later. You do you, but don’t forget about your mental health! My anxiety about everything alone makes paying these silly things off SUPER worth it.

You are NOT alone in this battle. I hope my journey has given you some insight!! I am super hoping to pay my loans off totally in the next 3-4 years. That’s my goal!! We got this!!

Feel free to email me, DM me, comment, whatever – if you have any questions/comments 🙂

Until next time,

Jen

Quality of Life vs Burnout: A Real Healthcare Dilemma

When thinking about what you’d want more – improved quality of life vs feeling burnt out, the answer is almost always very clear. A better quality of life, of course. Nobody wants to feel run into the ground, under appreciated, underpaid, etc. to the point of hating or quitting their job. That’s common sense. But what if I told you there are actually issues in emphasizing this superior quality of life mentality?

While there are pros and cons to all companies, it’s pretty astounding to me that improving employee quality of life could actually cause issues within a healthcare system. Hear me out on this one.

I feel honored to have worked in a variety of facilities within the last 3.5 years of practicing as a PT. Specifically, I have worked in larger hospital systems on both the east coast (Norfolk, Virginia) and the west coast (San Diego, California).

If you know anything about the differences between the east and west coast, just know this one- California values quality of life way more than any other place that I have lived. The labor laws entitle employees to multiple paid breaks throughout the day, a need to take a 30 minute lunch break or get paid extra, staffing ratios are way better (especially with nursing!). In Virginia, you don’t get these paid breaks throughout the day, staffing ratios are lower, and there is much more demand for productivity when treating patients. Again, these are specifically comparing these two states that I’ve worked in, but I imagine it carries over to multiple other states as well pending labor laws and culture.

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Reading this, you’re probably thinking – okay, so how could it be a bad thing that staffing ratios are up and employees are entitled to breaks!? That’s crazy! Well, this isn’t across the board with all facilities – it is definitely dependent on the health system you’re in, but I can say I have some experience with a few of them now.

Recently, I left a facility that I had heard AMAZING things about even when I lived on the east coast. “The benefits are great!” or “My aunt works there and she loves it!” I heard endless good things and decided I had to check it out once I moved. I was hired and worked in one of their facilities for 8 months before I decided I couldn’t do it any longer.

So what happened?

I had a 15-20 minute commute, I had been given free scrub tops for my position, they gave me multiple free things throughout the year, the hospital had a bunch of free workout sessions at lunch, a gym that I could use… what’s not to love?

Well, from the beginning, I noticed everyone was pretty relaxed at the facility. That chill Cali vibe. I figured I could get used to it. My first 1-2 months were focused around figuring out the documentation, finding my way around/between the various floors and settings.

The things I began to notice around month 2:

  • Everything I did was communicated to the “lead therapist” who then contacted the physician. Or I talked to the nurse. I had never been introduced to a physician, NP, or PA. I didn’t even know where the phone list was. Why? Because that’s not a thing at this facility. Staff PTs hardly ever spoke to the physicians or mid-levels directly. Yep, that means little to no autonomy. And yep, that means when the physician/NP/PA walked in the room, they definitely did not acknowledge who you were or show much respect (I know this happens everywhere depending on the person, but definitely more emphasized here). This also meant that whenever a lead therapist wasn’t present, the staff therapists claimed it wasn’t their role to call the physician because it wasn’t “part of their job,” at times leading to a delay of care.
  • Patients wouldn’t get seen/treated because people just didn’t want to/needed breaks. And it was pretty unlikely for another therapist to help another out, because most of the time, they wanted to leave early. Oh, and the priority to see patients was based on “who we got paid more for” not who needed it most based off diagnosis and presentation (YIKES).
  • Poor evidence-based care. Everything seemed very behind the times. I’m not sure the reason for this, but I have a few speculations:
    • Most of the employees come to work for a paycheck, they highly value their home life more than work. And don’t get me wrong–this is SO okay!!! BUT – in a healthcare profession, when your job is to advocate and assist patients, this can be harmful to patients if you’re not at least somewhat dedicated to your role.
    • Related to above, the bare minimum is done because nothing more is expected of the workers – and management doesn’t necessarily encourage more education and more progression. Employees didn’t take students, and when volunteers came to observe, nobody wanted them either. Many times when I asked why something was done a certain way, the answer was, “well that’s how we’ve always done it.” **NEWSFLASH** Healthcare is ALWAYS changing – if you are doing something because that’s how you’ve ALWAYS done it- chances are you are very outdated.
    • When I brought up the need to see certain patients at a higher frequency due to certain neuro diagnoses, evidence, and patient response, I got feedback such as, “we’re not staffed for that, so can we decrease the frequency of those patients?” And “We don’t get paid as much to see them, so we only see them 3 times a week.”

*slowly begins to pull hair out*

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I know these may seem silly, but being in a profession where we get PAID because of having these patients as our “customers,” some of this boggled my mind. The employees are getting treated better than the patients! Yes, I understand we need employees to be healthy to treat patients, but there is a very delicate balance that needs to be found. And YES I understand patients will come based on how you treat them – but to me, not providing the best, evidence-based care, is harmful and a true disservice to our patients. It’s truly not hard to treat the patients well AND provide evidence-based care, especially if you have a dedicated team of employees who work together to provide this.

We can’t keep delaying patient care because we don’t feel like doing extra work. I understand you can’t do extra work every single day, but sometimes we just have to go above and beyond – we need to advocate for our patients and stand up for them, not treat them like a dollar sign.

We can’t keep doing the same thing over and over – that’s a disgrace to the profession and healthcare overall. Be open to new ideas, change, and evidence, learn to progress with the profession and stay on top of your continuing education in a variety of realms. This is a profession with never-ending learning, don’t forget that.

I can walk out of the hospital. I can choose the hours I want to work so I don’t get burnt out. I can change my job. (Trust me, I know this is hard because of student loans, I have PLENTY). These patients can’t change how you treat them, the care they receive, the knowledge behind what you are doing. Treat them how you would want to be treated, they need you. End of story.

If you are feeling burnt out, find an alternative. What can you do that you love? Can you change your position around to make you happier? Will your manager help you re-organize this? Can you find a new position that requires less working hours so you can give it all you got for a few hours and then focus more on home? By doing the bare minimum at work, not only are you suffering from not wanting to be there – but the patient is suffering, those around you are suffering, and the profession is suffering. We need to keep moving forward, help yourself to help others. It is hard work changing jobs and searching for one that best suits your needs, but to make you overall happy – that work is 100% worth it. (I fully understand that this is difficult especially when there are financial barriers, really, I get it).

So back to my rant of how this improved employee quality of care can be harmful.. For me, it hurt me that I was consistently going above and beyond and working harder than almost everyone around me. I felt like I was trying to drag other employees forward to be better, trying to inspire a group of people who did not seek motivation or inspiration. I truly cared for my patients and wanted the best for them. I noticed many patients who were not able to advocate for themselves and therefore were pushed off to the side. They weren’t given the appropriate chance because they didn’t have the financial means of others, or they weren’t able to progress as quickly so others didn’t have the patience and want to take their time with them.

I know this sounds heartless and a bit of a direct blow coming from me, but if you aren’t fully dedicated to this profession, you are harming this profession. As physical therapists, we need to advocate for what we do, show our importance, educate others on how we can help them. By falling into the norm, you are allowing our profession to regress while other disciplines keep moving forward.

Next time you head into work, I hope you remember why you’re there, why you got into this profession. Life happens all around work, but for just a few hours, you are there to make a difference in someone else’s life. A difference you were educated and trained for, and a difference that nobody else can provide. Dedicate yourself for those few hours, help those patients, remember what you are there for. That being said, don’t beat yourself up if you slip up now and then. Just keep trying to do the best you can, for your patient. The reward you will feel internally for helping others will be much more than a free water bottle or a phone case. It will reside with you for years. Search for that type of gift from your work.


If you are ever in a position where you don’t feel like your current job is helping you improve yourself, improve the profession, or even worse – just not listening to you. Don’t be afraid to get out. Listen to your morals, follow your ethical compass. You are wanted and needed. And don’t forget one of my favorite quotes, “If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.”

Get out there, find what you love, and use that to help others! I know if you are able to achieve this level of success, you won’t feel burnt out.

Feel free to reach out or provide any comments, suggestions, or alternatives you can think of! I try to stay as open-minded as possible 🙂 Find all of my contact info here.

Until next time,

Jen

Check out my other blogs including Simple Ways to Save Money, Observing a Japanese Day Rehab, and Life as a Small PT!